Learning the Art of Writing

Archive for April, 2006

Contents

 

                                                      Creative Writing                                               


1. Life story:

Dinner Guests

” All the world is a stage”

2. Songs:

Performance – Voice

– Music – Writing

3. Astrology: 

Walking the path –

Energies – Psychic Life

4. Affirmations:

 The Master-Key -Positive Thinking

5. Life Long learning:

 C.G.Jung Learning Difficulties:

Time Lines     

 30th September 1955

 St. James Dean Day

   7. Mother – Father Complex     :

 ‘Who loves ya baby’

 

    8. The Inner Child and its Rescue: 

 I’m not drowning just waving

 

  9. Art as a Spiritual Fact

 Rules of Thinking

 

10. Mythes and Legends:

 Keeper of Soul Magic 

 

11. Drugs, Life and Other things:

 Just getting high

 

12. Journaling: 

Self – Management

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

                                                                

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Advertisements

Book list for empowering books

Further Reading

This list of books is merely a suggested list. It is in no way an endorsement of any book or author. However, many of these books are probably very interesting and would be quite helpful for finding out further information on sexual abuse, assault and harassment.

Sexual Abuse

Angelou, Maya, I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings. New York: Bantam, 1980.

Armstrong, Louise, Kiss Daddy Goodnight (A Speak-Out on Incest.) New York: Pocket Books, 1978.

Baer, Euan and Peter Dimock, Adults Molested as Children: A Survivor’s Manual for Women and Men. Orwell, VT: Safer Society Press, 1988.

Bass, Ellen and Laura Davis, The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse. New York: Harper & Row, 1988.

Bass, Ellen and Louise Thornton, eds., I Never Told Anyone: Writings by Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse. New York: Harper & Row, 1983.

Brady, Katherine, Father’s Days: A True Story of Incest. New York: Dell, 1979.

Burgess, Ann W., Sexual Assault of Children and Adolescents. Lexington,

MA: Lexington Books, 1978.

Butler, Sandra, Conspiracy of Silence: The Trauma of Incest. San Francisco: Volcano Press, 1985.

Clark, Sister Ave, Lights in the Darkness (For Survivors and Healers of Sexual Abuse.) Williston Park, NY: Resurrection Press Ltd.

Fraser, Sylvia. My Father’s House: A Memoir of Incest and of Healing. New York: HarperCollins, 1989.

Courtois, Christine A., Healing the Incest Wound: Adult Survivors in Therapy. New York: W.W. Norton & Co., 1988.

Danica, Elly. Don’t: A Woman’s Word. A Personal Chronicle of Childhood Incest and Adult Recovery. San Francisco: Cleis Press, 1988.

Daugherty, Lynn B., Why Me? Help for Victims of Child Sexual Abuse (Even if They are Adults Now). Racine, WI: Mother Courage Press, 1984.

Davis, Laura, The Courage to Heal Workbook: For Women and Men Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse. New York: Harper & Row, 1990.

Donaforte, Laura, I Remembered Myself: The Journal of a Survivor of Childhood Sexual Abuse. Self-Published, 1982.

Gil, Eliana, Outgrowing the Pain: A Book for and about Adults Abused as Children. San Francisco: Launch Press, 1983.

Herman, Judith, Father-Daughter Incest. Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press, 1981.

Maultz, Wendy and Beverly Holman, Incest and Sexuality: A Guide to Understanding and Healing. Lexington, MA: Lexington Books, 1987.

McNaron, Toni and Yarrow Morgan, Voices in the Night: Women Speaking About Incest. Minneapolis: Cleis Press, 1982.

Morris, Michelle, If I Should Die Before I Wake. New York: Dell, 1982.

Poston, Carol and Karen Lison, Reclaiming Our Lives: Hope for Adult Survivors of Incest. Boston: Little Brown, 1989.

Sebold, Alice. Lucky: A Memoir. Back Bay Books, September 2002.

Raine, Nancy Venable, After Silence: Rape and My Journey Back. New York, NY: Crown Publishers, Inc, 1999.

Randall, Margaret, This is About Incest. Ithaca, NY: Firebrand Books, 1987.

Rush, Florence, The Best Kept Secret: Sexual Abuse of Children. Englewood Cliffs, NJ: Prentice-Hall, 1980.

Russell, Diana, The Secret Trauma: Incest in the Lives of Girls and Women. New York: Basic Books, 1986.

Schrieber, Flora, Sybil. New York: Warner, 1973.

Walker, Alice, The Color Purple. New York: Pocket Books, 1982.

White, Louise, The Obsidian Mirror: An Adult Healing from Incest. Seattle: Seal Press, 1988.

Woititz, Janet, Healing Your Sexual Self. Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, Inc., 1989.

Sexual Assault

Morris, Debbie. Forgiving the Dead Man Walking (with Gregg Lewis). Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House, 1998.

Pierce-Baker, Charlotte. Surviving the Silence: Black Women’s Stories of Rape. New York: W. W. Norton and Company, 1998.

Francisco, Patricia Weaver. Telling: A Memoir of Rape and Recovery. New York: Cliff Street Books, 1999.

Kalven, Jamie. Working With Available Light: A Family’s World After Violence. New York: W. W. Norton and Company, 1999.

Lauer, Teresa. Hours of Torture, Years of Silence: My Soul with the Scene of a Crime. Institute for Interpersonal Relations, 1998.

Katz, Judy. No Fairy Godmothers, No Magic Wands: The Healing Process After Rape. Saratoga, CA: R&E Publishers, 1984.

Ramsey, Martha. Where I Stopped: Remembering Rape at Thirteen. New York: Harvest Books, 1997.

Rhett, Kathryn, ed. Survival Stores: Memoirs of Crisis. Anchor Books, 1997.

Saldana, Theresa. Beyond Survival. New York: Bantam Books, 1987.

Scherer, Migael. Still Loved by the Sun: A Rape Survivor’s Journal. New York: Simon & Schuster, 1992.

Sebold, Alice. Lucky. New York: Scribner, 1999.

Warshaw, Robin. I Never Called it Rape. New York: Harper & Row Publishers, 1988.

Ziegenmeyer, Nancy (with Larkin Warren).Taking Back My Life. Summit Books, 1992.

Adams, Caren and Jennifer Fay, Free of the Shadows. Oakland, CA: New

Harbinger Publications, 1989.

Amir, Menachem, Patterns in Forcible Rape. Chicago, IL: University of Chicago Press, 1971.

Barry, Kathleen, Female Sexual Slavery. Avon Books, 1979.

Benedict, Helen, Recovery: How to Survive Sexual Assault for Women, Men. Teenagers and Their Friends and Families. New York: Doubleday and Company, 1985.

Bode, Janet, Fighting Back: How to Cope with the Medical, Emotional, and Legal Consequences of Rape.

Brownmiller, Susan, Against Our Will: Men. Women. and Rape. New York: Bantam Books, 1975.

Burgess, Ann and Lynda Holmstrom, Rape: Crisis and Recovery. Bowie, MD: Robert J. Brady Co., 1979.

Burgess, Ann and Lynda Holmstrom, Rape: Victims of Crisis. Bowie, MD: Robert J.

Brady Co., 1974.

Caignon, Denise and Gail Groves, Her Wits About Her: Self-Defense Success Stories by Women. New York: Harper & Row, 1988.

Estrich, Susan, Real Rape: How the Legal System Victimizes Women Who Say No. Cambridge, MA Harvard University Press, 1987.

Gordon, Margaret T. and Stephanie Riger, The Female Fear. New York: The Free Press, 1989.

Griffin, Susan, Rape: The Power of Consciousness. New York: Harper & Row, 1979.

Johnson, Kathryn M., If You Are Raped: What Everv Woman Needs To Know. Holmes Beach, FL: Learning Publications, Inc., 1985.

Koppelman, Susan, ed., Women in the Trees: U.S. Women’s Short Stories About Battering and Resistance. 1839-1944.

Ledray, Linda E., Recovering From Rape. New York: Henry Holt and Company, 1986.

Medea, Andra and Kathleen Thompson, Against Rape. New York: Farra, Straus and Giroux, 1974.

Russell, Diana E.H., Rape In Marriage. New York: Macmillan, 1982.

Russell, Diana, The Politics of Rape: The Victim’s Perspective. New York: Stein & Day, 1975.

Warshaw, Robin, I Never Called It Rape. New York: Harper & Row, 1988.

Other

Bopp, William J. and Vardalis, James J., Crimes Against Women. Springfield, IL: Charles C. Thomas, 1987.

Boston Women’s Health Book Collective, The New Our Bodies, Ourselves. New York: Simon & Schuster, 1984.

Buchwald, Emilie and Pamela Fletcher and Martha Roth, eds., Transforming a Rape Culture. Minneapolis, MN: Milkweed Editions, 1993.

Lederer, Laura, ed., Take Back the Night: Women on Pornography. New York: William Morrow and Company, Inc., 1980.

Malamuth, Neil M. and Edward Donnerstein, Pornography and Sexual Aggression. Orlando, Fl: Academic Press, 1984.

 

For more current book lists, see:

http://www.aftersilence-bynvraine.net/survivors/survframe.html


No 32 NG18

No… 32….NG18..

 

The pain goes deep into the ribs.

It irritates more than truly hurts.

Always in denial, as nothing ever hurts now.

She waits in limbo numb with the fear that has taken over.

No gear! No gear! NON

Doors bang constantly, which echo the voice and frame the footsteps.

The voices whisper in the doorway

“We need more pain, We need to inject poison into our veins”

Kill life Kill life Kill

The smell of grim lives on the stairs, stench thick on the  pathway to  this hell.

Murky Strangers linger while the dragon courses through their wiry frames.

Down stairs,, the entrance where the main doors buzz,

Sticky finger marks the only reminder of these abusers these users.

She – the owner of these sites, has little,, so small, four feet nine inches.

It had been said that good things come in little packages.

It must have been used up quickly, because the tracks in her body are  showing where life used to be for that is all that is left.

The bags by the door full and smelly, the bags under her eyes

Black and empty, and face death everyday.

No hope for Hungry Ghosts…..

30m years of blood sweat and laughter

 

Kathleen Quinlan

34 Noel Street

Mansfield Notts

NG18 5 NY

Mobil: 07881577637

E-mail kbquinlan34@yahoo.co.uk

 

A qualified experienced Community Development Worker, Facilitator, and Trainer, with a background in managing projects and people.  Recruiting and retaining volunteers, with skills in supervision and workshop design. Developing groups and individuals in a variety of settings and roles. Have an extensive understanding of working structures, and a reliable, creative and resourceful nature, which is supported by good communication and listening skills. Tempered with a good sense of humour and a practical approach to work and training.

 

CAREER HISTORY

 

 

LEARNER OF THE YEAR 2005 THE MANSFIELD AREA 27th May 2005.

 

2003 – 2005     Volunteer Manager-Community Development Worker – Centre Manager

Running a Focus point for the Ladybrook Neighbourhood Renewal Team

Recruiting and retaining volunteers, developing policies and procedures.

Supporting and supervising volunteers, developing learning and action plans, and accredited training for volunteers.  Capacity building in groups and teams, equal opportunities training.  Accessing funding for groups and volunteers.  Networking, devising constitutions, writing reports, gathering statistics, monitoring and evaluating projects.  Meeting Government floor targets in all five areas:

Health, Employment, Older People, Younger People, and Building Communities.

 

2000 – 2001     ART/MUSIC TUTOR

                Special Educational Needs Coordinator Arnold  Hill  Nottingham

As an Arts Space Music Teacher working on a one-to one basis in a team and developing lesson plans relevant to pupils and their abilities.

Supporting Care Workers, other Tutors and pupils with learning disabilities, teaching, devising singing and performing skills. Setting up recording facilities in local school with young people aged 14-21

 

1999 – 2000     TUTORS ASSISTANT

                Portland Training College, Mansfield

To provide classroom and technical assistance to students with severe disabilities in I.T. and Arts activities. To develop activities at the Youth Centre on site at weekends and evenings. Assessments of young peoples’ physical, emotional and mental needs.

 

 

 

1997 – 1999      IT TRAINER – Part-time

                Mansfield Training Initiative

                Teaching basic computer skills. Delivering Word and Number Power Sessions

                        Motivating and monitoring students’ progress. Teaching Life Skills

                             i.e. Assertiveness, Anger Management  and Problem  Solving etc.      

 

1995 – 1996      PROJECT CO-ORDINATOR

                Bandwagon Recording Studios

                Co-ordinating women’s only music project   Designed a 12 week programme,

                             which included Singing, Songwriting, Recording and Performing Skills 

                             Recording, and Live Performances, and using a recording studio and Developing

                             Networks.

 

1994-1995          LEADER IN CHARGE: Project Leader for Afro- Caribbean Unity Club

 

1988-1993          INFORMATION WORKER/ COUNSELLOR: Youth Enquiry Service Notts County Council

                           Information Advice and Guidance for young people and their families.

 

1986-1988         YOUTH WORKER: Broxtowe Centre  Full-time Outreach Worker.

                           Liaising with Schools and other community groups to develop services for young

                           People.

 

1984-1986        ACCOMMODATIONS WORKER: Ashfield Homeless Support Group.

                          Finding accommodation for homeless young people in the Ashfield Areas.

 

1981-1984                COMMUNITY ASSOCIATION DEVELOPMENT OFFICER: Mansfield District  

Council. Supporting volunteers who run Community Centers in Mansfield.

 

 

                          

VOLUNTEER ROLES:

 

2005- to date    SUTTON IN ASHFILD VOLUNTEER BUERUX :

                   Coordinator of Volunteer Manager Forum Developing networking and training for                                            managers who work supporting Volunteers and have little support.

 2002-2003       FOUNDER OF THE POETS CORNER ACTION GROUP: Liasing with Leicester Housing  

                         Association , Mansfield District Council and the Nottinghamshire Police to solve the  Anti-Social

                         Behaviour and Drug Problems of the area. 

1994- 1995      CO-ORDINATOR OF LETTS GROUP: Unemployed Workers Centre Mansfield

                         Developing  a Network of Exchange Skills.

1991- 1997       WRITER AND PERFORMER: Community  Arts Theatre : made a video  highlighting the pit 

                         closures and the affects of mass unemployment

1992-1994        SECRETARY FIELDMILL  TENANT AND RESIDENCE ASSOCIATION: Up grading

                          housing stock.

 

 

                          TRAINING & EDUCATION:

 

2003-2005       REGENERATION AND COMMUNITY CERTIFICATE IN HIGHER EDUCATION

2003-2005       various short courses at mansfield community voluntary services

1998-1999       NVQ LEVEL 2  I.T.

1997- 1999      NATIONAL BTEC HIGHER DIPLOMA IN MUSIC TECHNOLOGY AND POPULAR MUSIC.

1999-2000       TEACHER TRAINING STAGE ONE

1996-1997       COUNSELLING SKILLS AND THEORY BCS short courses

1994-1983        VARIES YOUTH TRAINING COURSES IN SELF DEVELOPMENT.

1973-1975        CERTIFICATE IN COMMUNITY DEVELOPMENT, ADMINISTRATION AND BUSINESS.

 

Interests

Internet, Web design, Signing and Performance, Astrology, Alternative Healing, Creative Writing, Gardening and Bicycling and Swimming.

FULL CLEAN DRIVING LICENCE

REFERENCES ON REQUEST

 

Carl Roders

 

These are some of the books that the humanist author Carl Rodgers has written since he first started practicing as a psychologist and counselling practitioner.

The Therapeutic Relationship and its Impact – A Study of Psychotherapy with Schizophrenics.    Freedom to Learn—     Encounter Groups — Carl Rodgers On personal Power

 

Carl Rodgers writes of his fundamental belief in the subjective, observing that “ Man lives essentially in his own personal and subjective world and even his most objective functioning, in science mathematics and the like is the result of subjective purpose and subjective choice”

 

When I first encountered this man’s theories in the early 80’s it was like a weight had been lifted. Someone who had a similar believes to myself, and although I had tried hard to practice “absolute positive regard” for others I had never quiet made it because I was still living with very abused and abusive people. I was still abusing myself with various states of ways. After all it’s what we had learnt to do. When I first came across this theory was like something had sparked me off. Energy had been ignited. When I finally decided to qualify in counselling and I was training in Nottingham on Heathcoat Street where the Mushroom Bookshop had lived for many years, a very therapeutic area.

The day was barmy and life changing. We sat in a circle and I began to get really excited that I was going to watch Carl Rodgers on video practicing “Absolute Positive Regard” with a thin blond woman whom I barely remember and I cried when I heard him talk. So in need was I of a sign, that what I believed was the way, and that was very subjective to me.  And yes why wouldn’t you want to be treated with respect and basic human kindness. It all made sense; I was on to something, something big.

As with plants so with people and the notion that there is a “real world” and that people increasingly understanding and singing the Levellers Song “There is only one way of life and that’s your own”

It’s a luxury the world can not afford since it leads to false beliefs. His alternative hypothesis is there are as many realities as there are people and people are increasingly “inwardly rejecting the view of one single, culture- approved reality”.  I agree and this is where I am basing my belief system that I am unique to this world and I would just want what we all want Respect and Freedom to learn.

He coined the term “ The Actualising Tendency” which I seem to have a lot of and have been very curious about over the past few years. This is my story of my own learning and development of these features and the active processes that has developed its capacities in the direction of maintaining, enhancing and reproducing me.

 

 

The difficulties I have had has been when these Tendencies have been blocked. My attempt at wholeness and towards actualization of my potential has made me the happiest. One of the main reason I attracted both Counselling and Meditation was to explore where I was blocked, and how could I solve these mysteries without language and understanding of who I was, what had happened and how would I get there. Firstly I recognised that I had a concept of myself that was not the “real me” I had learnt to adapt; I had learnt behaviour that was no longer appropriate to my situation and was destructive. It had been placed there by others because they needed me to believe they were right and had for me to take these false beliefs on.

I did not have someone who loved me just for me no matter what I did, and this is where I feel that the need to have approval became greatest. For someone to give me Positive Regard helps me to experience myself as unique and loved

My cv

MY CV
As a qualified and experienced Facilitator, Community Development

Worker and Volunteer Manager, with a background in community centre management, workshop design, and people skills I have developed and supported groups, volunteers and individuals.

Having worked in a variety of settings and roles for a wide sector of community organisations, and with an extensive understanding of working structures  have developed both organisational and administrative systems which have promoted a high level of learning from both practice and experience. 

Through experiencing volunteering and paid work as an activist and reflective practitioner, I have developed both skill and knowledge and know that I can confidentially undertake any role in a paid capacity in any community  to a high level.

The various roles undertaken in my last post has equipped me with the ability to build relationships within these  communities   so that I can be effective as a group member and a lone worker promoting social inclusion and being aware of the results of social exclusion.

My practice as a Community Development Worker starts from the base line of empowerment, building self-esteem, confidence and skills in those individuals who have a need to be active in their communities.

In my role as Volunteer Manager I have been capable of developing services, activities and events that have reflected the groups, volunteers and individuals need to come together around a common aim and be proactive in dealing with problems, learning to network,  learning to use   their voice and train to a good standard.

As a Centre Manager I able to access funding from a variety of funding streams and develop groups that created sustainability for the centre, by bring in revenue through bookings and use of resources.

Eight groups were developed which met all the floor targets for the Government’s Renewal Process, and it was the reason that the centre was developed  which helped  to meet the need within the community for access to Information Advice and Guidance, Services and Activities that “help build better communities.”

 

 The groups developed in Turning Point included

Point Training: A training group that developed the policies and procedures for the centre and the volunteers many of whom had disabilities and were vulnerable adults.  Theses policies needed to reflect their needs and protect them whilst working in the public domain. A volunteer hand book was developed for the weekly training sessions which included Life skills, Equal Opportunities, Dealing with Conflict Problem Solving, Health and Safety, Disability Awareness and Undertaking Risk Assessments.

 £56,000.00 was accessed to train these volunteers.

Get Active for Recycled Teenagers: This is a group which  a volunteer who had felt excluded, developed in order to bring older people together to go walking and visiting different venues and bringing  people together in friendship. This lady was 78 when she began this group having never volunteered before; she formed a group and on a monthly basis over the two years took over 300 people out. She accessed £25,000.00 from the Community Chest and other funding streams.

Women Unite (making a difference): Began in April 2004 and worked with their right and responsibilities in the community and developed a 12 week workshop to build self esteem, assertiveness skills and equal opportunities training. This was very successfully as there was no other group of this type in Mansfield.  Women’s Groups from both Nottingham and Derby came to support the opening day. This group accessed and fund raised over £14,000.00 to develop these workshops and had over 30 full time members.

Zone One Youth Group:  Working with the Youth Service the centre opened a cyber café in the evenings for young people.  The outcome was that a range of service providers came together to work on how to engage young people in the area and how to provide services for these young people. This proved to be at success with a new building being developed to provide these services.  £28,000.00 was accessed to develop the Youth Centre.

Neighbourhood Management Team: Developing Action Plans and writing minutes, and reports, gaining charitable status, developing sustainability, business planning and training in Committee skills, were the areas I worked mostly with this group. The sub group from this team had line management responsibility for the centre and they met quarterly.

Turning Point: A Focus Point or One Stop Shop used extensively with over 16,000 visitors in the first two years of opening. We developed the Quality mark for Information Advice and Guidance, and training sessions for volunteers and members of the public on a Friday.  It was a friendly open atmosphere and a great deal of friendships and alliances were created because of this initiative. £69,000.00 of funding was accessed in order to equip the centre with the resources needed to develop skills.

The Newsletter group: This was a changing and dynamic group of people who produced three newsletters and the publicity for the centre.  £9,000.00 was accessed from various sources to develop communication skills.   A website was supplies by MASP (Mansfield Area Strategic Partnership).

Over sixty volunteers who had little or no experience of volunteering worked together to create partnerships and networks with  a wide variety of people these included PCT, Police, Colleges, Welfare Rights Groups CVS

Enable Help the Aged and many more. Match funding of some £50.000.00 would have been needed to create what the volunteers created by giving their time free.

I also represented the Management Team at the Mansfield Community Empowerment Network, the West Area Essembly and the Community Development Workers Forum.

In April we had an open day for The Year of the Volunteer with the theme of what volunteering had done for them and all those involved did power point presentations. It was a celebration of the work they had all done, over 60 people attended.

 In May of this year I finished the  first year of a  Foundation Degree in Regeneration and Community at Derby University and through West Notts College,  Nottingham Learning and Skills Council and MASP, I  was nominated as Learner of the Year overall for Mansfield 2005.

I feel that I have the right attitude, motivation and skills to develop this post and would welcome the opportunity to do so.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Positive Thinking

 

Justice is such a small word for such a large concept.

 

Formulate and stamp indelibly on your mind a mental picture of yourself as succeeding.

Hold this picture never allow it to fade your mind will seek to develop this picture

Never think of yourself as failing never doubt the reality of the mental picture image. Whenever a negative thought concerning your personal power comes to mind deliberately voice a positive thought to cancel it out.

Do not build obstacles in your imagination, depreciate every so called obstacle.

Minimize them difficulties must be studied and efficiently dealt with to be eliminated but they must be seen for only what they are they must not be inflated by fear thoughts.

Do not be awe stuck by other people and try to copy them; nobody can be you as efficiently as you can

Remember also that most people despite their confident appearance and demeanor, they are often as sacred as you are and as doubtful of themselves.

Get a counsellor, self-knowledge leads to a cure.

I can do all things through Christ, which strengtheneth me.

Make a true estimate of your abilities then raise them 10% do not become egotistical, but develop a wholesome self-respect.

Believe in your God-Released Power. God is now guiding me in all I do

Put yourself in God’s Hands, to do that simply state “I am in Gods Hands

Then believe that you are. Now receiving all the powers you need ‘FEEL’ it flowing into you AFFIRM that the KINGDOM OF GOD IS WITHIN YOU.

And now giving me success in creating creative and well-paid work for me to do

He is now filling me with His Creative Spiritual Power that gives me a constant supply. I now accept God’s gift of energy, so that I can serve him truly.